which can preface all kinds of flaky self-justifications for ill-thought through opinions based on gut feel.
But as a parent I worry all the time about how our boys are going to get on in the world. How they'll cope with violence, relationships, jobs, making sense of life. You want to protect them, but you know the best you can do is to bring them up to be strong, loving and confident.
When I heard the brother and the parents of Jimmy Mizen on the radio last week I had tears rolling down my cheeks. It was deeply upsetting hearing not just their sense of loss, but their determination not to be angry and to try and make some good come from this dreadful, awful crime, at the moment the killer who did it was sent down.
There's a website here, set up by Jimmy's friends and family.
God bless them. RIP.